Hello! I am a new member. I joined to your fantastic group today. To tell the truth, I have a dreadful phobia too, but my major fear is not of insects or animals. I am a student at the university and I am doing a degree in English so, I have to do lots of essays and lectures, but when I am doing the lecture my throat goes dry, my hands shake, and I get dizzy, even I cannot have eye contact with audience. It causes I lose the mark. I call it, Lecture Phobia. Thank you so much!
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Thank you for your kind comments on my group. :)
I have a dreadful phobia to, but my phobia is not of insects or animals. I am a student *at a university and I am doing a degree in English, so I have to do lots of essays and lectures, but when I am giving a lecture my throat goes dry, my hands shake and I get dizzy. I cannot even make eye contact with the audience. It causes *me to lose the mark. I call it 'Lecture Phobia'.
You have done very well here Mo!
Just a couple of little corrections just to help you.
* It is 'at a university' as you are referring to university in general terms. It is 'the' university or, more likely, just 'university'if you have already mentioned it and the reader knows you are talking about it.
For example by actually mentioning the name of the university, or by beginning with something like 'I go to university three days a week........' or 'I have been going to university for three years...' then you can refer to 'the' university or 'university' later depending on the context..
* It causes me to... it is 'me; when when you refer to yourself.
It makes me happy... My friend told me ..... My mother gave me.... It doesn't make any difference to me..
Compare these examples with: I am happy.....I listened to my friend....I had a gift from my mother....
I was not affected by......
I understand what you go through Mo.
The actual name for the symptoms you have when giving a lecture or facing a large number of people to address them is called 'stage fright.'
It may seem difficult to do, but try to sit quietly before you face your audience and do deep slow breathing exercises for a few minutes.
You need to conciously relax yourself. Sit comfortably in a chair and make sure your shoulders are relaxed, your hands should be resting lightly and loosely in your lap.
Also pay attention to your knees and your jaw as both of these get overlooked. When you feel you are relaxed, then slowly breath in, hold the breath for the count of five, then slowly let the breath out. Do this for as long as you can.
If you practise this for a period in a quiet place, it does relax you. if you find your thoughts intrude, do not panick, but let them go and just wait a few seconds then begin again with the long slow breaths.
Pause from time to time during your lecture and do concentrate on breathing. This sounds silly, but it is easy to say as much as you can without breathing, then you lose the strength of your vocal chords and you get out of breath which worsens the situation. The trick is breathing control and to take your time. Have a glass of water that you can sip from time to time which helps the dry throat and gives you time to recover yourself if your nerves get the better of you.
You have to persevere and take comfort from the fact that some very famous actors and public speakers have exactly the same symptons! They too have to work hard at keeping themselves composed and calm. Remember, practise makes perfect.
Also, another tip is to not hold any papers which will betray trembling but place them on the table and wait before you start talking.
It is helpful to look at the audience and see if you can pick out a face that you feel is interested, then talk directly to that person. It also helps if you can walk about a little rather than standing rooted to the spot.
Good luck to you Mo and keep your chin up!
I am certain if you practise breathing and relaxation at home and get used to the feeling of being relaxed that you will be helped tol give your lectures with less stress
Thank you so much! That is very considerate of you! You are so kind and helpful. I will practise your perfect and excellent advice. I hope the best for you and your family.
Thank you Mo!
You are very welcome.
I do hope my words help you.
Always try to be aware of your breathing through out the day and get into the habit of consciously breathing slowly and deeply without straining.
Can you get yoga classes in your country?
If so, they are marvellous for relaxation, correct breathing and helping you to control unwanted thoughts which cause anxiety.
Thank you so much!
I try to do it and I have been doing Yoga for 6 years, but I gave it up.
I will keep it on again, thank you for your excellent suggestions and great correction too.
I have phobia to the wasps. When I can see a wasps I need to run, I can't stay still in the same site.
Hello Esgora! :)
I have a phobia of wasps. When I see *wasps, I have to run. I can't stay still in the same place where they are.
Esgora, we had something in our gaden this summer that we never had before - a wasps nest!
We have a bird box on the wall at the back of our house. The birds had been in it since spring, but when they had reared their chicks, they left the nest - and the wasps moved in.
I was a bit worried, but I decided that if I ignored them they would not bother me!
I have noticed in the summer that if a group are sitting round a table, if one person starts flapping their hands or trying to move away - the wasps keep flying round them!
That is when I startred to ignore them and they did not bother me!
I know it is hard, but if you are where you cannot run away, it is better if you sit still and do nothing to attract them to you.
By the way I forgot to say that the wasps just left the birds nest later; so we shall have to clear it out for the birds next year!
Thanks for your answer.
I try to stay quite at the same place, but it's very difficult for me.
When I was a child, a wasp bitme and I didn't have anything I stayed with my friends eating sweets and a wasp came and bit me!
I'm really scared about spiders, I can't be close to them.
I am really scared of spiders, I can't be near to them. (Or: I don't like them near me. )
I don't like spiders, my husband hates them!
I have to trap them in a bottle then I put them outside in a leafy bush!